Lately, I have been suffering all kind of adversities. Aside from my financial difficulties, some members of my family have been attacking me so fiercely and tenaciously that I could hardly breathe. The reason for their unwise obstinacy was the simple fact that I was not conducting myself according to their views. At first, their threats and insults filled me with lively horrors, but now I am at peace. When I calmed down and read those insulting messages more carefully, I clearly saw that they were not really defaming me but the very senders, for they unconsciously had exposed their own weakness; all we say and write always gives valuable information about who we are, what we fear or what we long for. Long years of frustrations and incomprehension end up poisoning hearts and minds and leading to judgmental attitudes, which precisely reflect the way we look at ourselves. We treat others in the same way we treat ourselves. If we do not accept either our own frailties or deficiencies, we will not be able to sympathize with the rest of the world. Behind those words that I have recently received, there is only hatred. Aversion spills secrets crammed with self-loathing and low self-esteem. Take yourself the way you are and you will not not need to spoil your neighbor’s lives.